Is Violence, Including War, The Solution Of Our Problems?

In our society, domestic violence is a crime, duels are out-lawed, employers are required to provide a harassment and discrimination free environment, animal abuse id punishable and a person can be held in custody for psychological evaluation, if found destroying trees. The reason for these laws and practices are obvious. We want to keep our society safe and guarantee the basic human rights for everyone. Because we understand that the violence is inhuman and uncivilized, and nothing is solved by violent acts. These behaviors just complicate the situation, even more. For example, domestic violence can cause permanent and life long trauma to kids, create a perpetual chain of hateful reaction to the acts of violence, and can cause injury, disbility or even death to any of the involved people. This can break and tear-down families forever and grow a generation of kids, which is more likely to be violent as adults. The serious grudge, hate and other psychological issues, affecting an abused person, that may cuase serious problems for abuser, as well as for other related or unrelated people who may come in contact with the abused person. In addition to this, an abusive person is most likely to not keep it to his home and abuses all his contacts, one way or the other. Same is the case with all other types of violence like, duels and on job harassment and discrimination. These effects are far reaching, serious, long lasting and very hard to heal and treat. All. direct and indirect, physical, psychological and behavioral forms of violence are not acceptable in our culture, traditions and laws. 

But, it is totally incomprehensible to me that in the same society that hates violence so much, the worst form of violence, the war, is still just not acceptable, but in many cases desirable. The above mentioned problems and edverse effects, in addition to the tons of other unwanted effects and consequences, are caused by war, on a much larger and much more serious scale. I mean, scars, wounds, grudges and losses from war last generations over generation, for centuries or even thousands of years. Hidus still complain about the atrocities done by Buddhist conqueror Ashoka, thousands of years ago. Jews are still called Christ killers; Muslims still have grudges about crusades; wounds caused by Nazis are still fresh in many Jewish minds; Budhists still tell stories to their children about killings done by Hindus. At least for a moment, the victim is less than a human being for killer. Killed, hurt or otherwise affected people have kids, spouses, siblings, parents, relatives, co-workers and friends, who are traumatized forever, and carry grief and grudge for a long time. Some of them may even try for a revenge. We know that law, law enforcement and justice system exists, which is very likely to catch and punish the perpetrators. This causes a serious trauma to his relatives, friends, neighbors and co-workers, whch becomes a part of their lives. At that moment, It's all about me or him, in a killers mind. He believes that the victim is less than a human being. Every killer fabricates his own excuse to kill his victim. I believe. the same criminal approah exists in wars, ona much larger scale. It's cause is the us or them approach. In most cases, the percieved enemy is not considered human. They believe that their enemy is not human. In their view they have the rights to eliminate their enemy and the enemy must effectively stop to exist. We must realize that every person killed, hurt or otherwise affected in these conflicts, is a human being, and most likely has kids, brothers, sisters, mother, father, relatives, neighbors, friends and co-workers. The scarred people carry pain for the rest of their lives. In case of war, as opposed to individual crime, the number of affected people could be in millions or even in billions. In addition to this, both sides face serious psychological, economic and social consequences. These effects are felt not only on national, but also on individual, family and community levels. The direct or indirect effects of war hurt everyone, at every level, in the form of orphaned kids, physically and psychologically disabled vets. 

You should be crazy!! and this is it. Whatever your excuse for war is. Your religion, ideology, country, nation and ethnicity. Why would you do something for which your cause will be hated forever. Stop hating, if you want other people to love you. Do something good, if you are really passionate about your religion, country, nation or ethnic group. Something that may be remembered in good words and good in good deeds. Try to eradicate hunger; provide clean water; fight climate change and pollution; make sure that people have clothes that are appropriate for weather; they have a place to live; they get medical care when they are sick; their kids get appropriate education so that they grow up into productive adults and do not turn into terrorists. Because, hate causes hate. Care is the solution, not violence. Issues are resolved by a constructive behaviour, not by the destruction caused by war and terrorrism. This is because, evry person killed, or hurt is a human being, just like you and me. Do not creat an artificial divide between human beings. Please, let them com together, hug each other and love each other. Together, we can do miracles.